It's Not Baby Fat Anymore

by Melissa
(Youngstown, Ohio)

I am a bit ashamed but have to admit that I am one of those who gave the "it's just baby fat" excuse.

As parents we want the best for our kids and we always see how kids grow into themselves as they become teens. I was hoping that my daughter would be one of those.

I was sadly wrong and now my daughter is having difficulties. When she was younger (seven) she had lots of friends and was never judged. Now she is (fourteen) and those same friends have turned their backs on her.

She is still the same person but these kids make fun of her because she isn't up to their standards.

Her problems aren't just with her friends. She has real poor self esteem and I believe that to be due to the teasing. She has this " I don't care anymore attitude".

I try my best to be supportive of her and help her but she hurts too much. She has shortness of breath and the doctors are concerned that she might develop type 2 diabetes.

The title of this web page is perfect because " overweight children do need special love".

I try to be a good parent and feed her healthy foods but she can't resist the soda, chips, and fast food. I can't be around her constantly so monitoring her eating habits is difficult. What can I do?


We hear this quite often so you are not alone and neither is your daughter. Over 1/3 of teens are considered overweight.

Children can be mean and overweight children are a prime target. Your daughter needs to know the facts about fast food, soda, and chips. These are empty calories and the core of her problem.

The easiest solution is to do an inventory of the foods in the cupboard. Get rid of the junk and replace it with healthy choices.

What about your own eating habits? You should make adjustments in how the whole family eats. make it a family affair.

Your daughter can beat this with your help and support. Her self esteem will be restored once she starts to lose the weight.

Encourage more exercise and do it together. Take a walk every day and eat more fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Here are some tips that may help:

  • Don't miss any meals. Skipping meals actually is counter productive in weight loss. Your daughters metabolism slows down in an effort to conserve energy when she skips meals.

  • Get a good nights rest. Preferably 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Sleep deprivation increases hunger and appetite.

  • Be willing to experiment by eating a variety of nutritious foods.

  • Provide three healthy meals a day and create a regular mealtime for the family.

  • Refrain from eating after dinner. No midnight snacks.

  • Know your daughters serving size and provide just enough to satisfy her needs.

  • Enjoy your mealtime together avoiding confrontation. Unnecessary stress at mealtime can lead to emotional overeating.

  • Find creative ways of dealing with her emotions avoiding food as a solution.

  • Establish a set location for food consumption in the home.

  • Keep only snacks in the home that are high in nutrients and make them readily available.

  • Avoid buying problem foods like doughnuts and cookies.

We hope that this helps you and your daughter. Check back periodically to browse other submissions that may become useful.

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